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“The defining decade: Why your twenties matter”

The other day, a book advertisement caught my eye. Its title made me stop in my tracks.

The other day, a book advertisement caught my eye. The title: “The defining decade: why your twenties matter – and how to make the most of them now,” made me stop in my tracks.

“I have seen countless twenty-somethings spend living too many years without perspective,” explains author and clinical psychologist, Meg Jay. “What is worse are the tears shed by thirty-somethings and forty-somethings because they are now paying a steep price for a lack of vision in their twenties.”

According to Jay, I am currently living in the defining decade of my life. She claims that the things we do or don’t do in our twenties have a huge effect for our own life and even for generations to come.  “That’s a pretty bold statement,” I think to myself.

How am I using my twenties?

Jay describes twenty-somethings as caught in the middle of their ‘freedom years’ and the stress of trying to figure out what they should be doing for the rest of their lives.  “Buy a house?  Get married?  University?  Accept the job offer?” These important choices that we all have to make are often a cause for worry and anxiety, while others approach them with ignorance or even indifference.

The book has caused me to think introspectively. “How am I using my twenties?”

My thoughts go to a verse in Galatians 6:7, “Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap.” I don’t need to be anxious about what the future will bring me. God has given me the opportunity to define the rest of my life by what I sow – by the little choices I make during everyday life.

I sow to the good by doing God’s will – which is the good. It’s easier said than done, and it requires action against the sin that dwells in me.  It’s a battle I fight in my thought-life.  When I am tempted to, for example: irritation, anxiety or suspicious thoughts towards people around me, lust for the opposite sex, or the temptation to be offended, I hear God’s voice telling me to say “No!” to these thoughts, so they aren’t allowed to enter my heart.  For, as it’s written in Proverbs 4:23, “Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.”

God’s voice guides me

What does this have to do with “defining my life”?

I have experienced that when I am faithful to obey Gods voice in the little things, then He is faithful in return to guide me and give me answers when I need to make important choices.  This relationship with God gives me peace and assurance, in the midst of all the action. “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11.

“The defining decade,” has given me the opportunity to reflect.  I have chosen how I will make the most of my twenties, and I look forward to the future!  “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.” Matthew 6:33.

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