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What do I do if I have lost my relationship with Jesus?

Has your relationship with Jesus faded, and are you unsure how to get it back to where it once was?

Have you ever felt, after giving your life to Christ, that He was far away? That His blessings were removed from your life and that your relationship had faded to the point where you felt as if you were navigating life’s circumstances alone, bereft of His guidance and care? You, who once knew great inward happiness, a joy ‘out of this world’, came into something akin to a black hole, spiritually? You’re not alone.

A good soldier

When you signed on to be a follower of Jesus, you enlisted as a soldier, and a good soldier will inevitably face the enemyMost often when a Christian refers to his or her “enemies” they are speaking about the sin in their flesh and the temptations and lusts that arise from there. These are enemies because they tempt us to act contrary to the will of God. These can also be spiritual powers such as the spirit of the times which oppose the... More in battleAlmost all talk of battles and wars when concerning a Christian life refers to the inner battle that arises when a sinful thought tempts you. God’s Spirit and the flesh are at odds. When you have decided to only do God’s will and are being led by the Spirit, a conflict between the flesh and the Spirit arises: there is... More. And who is our enemy, who wishes us so much harm? “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.” 1 Peter 5:8. Satan wants nothing more than for us to fall out of our relationship with our Savior. So then, what will overcome such an apparently formidable foe?

The Bible tells us clearly: your faith. “And this is the victory that has overcome the world – our faith.” 1 John 5:4. What is my faith then, I who feel so weak and powerless? Perhaps I feel like I have no faith at all. Well, I believe that Jesus died on the crossWhen the cross is mentioned in the Bible, it most often does not refer to a physical wooden cross, except when specifically describing Jesus’ crucifixion on Calvary. “Taking up your cross” refers to the metaphorical cross that Jesus’ speaks about in Luke 9:23. “Taking up your cross” is the act of denying the sinful thoughts that come up in you... More for me, don’t I? No problem there. So, it’s helpful to really think about that, really ponder the depths of His love for a wretch like me. He died for me! For me personally, not just in the abstract, for mankind in general. He bled and suffered there as much for me as for anyone else on this earth! Believe that!

He was willing to do that because He believed that I would become successful in keeping His words of life in my daily life. He believed that even I would overcome as He overcame! He did not live His life in vain. He did not die in vain. He wanted brothers, those who too would be willing to take up their own cross in their daily life, choosing to suffer in the fleshThe Bible often mentions suffering. Though this can refer to outward, physical suffering, in the New Covenant it mostly applies to the suffering that occurs when you deny your own sinful lusts and desires and put them to death. It is an inner suffering that occurs because your lusts are not being satisfied, rather than a physical, outward one –... More rather than sin in the time of temptation. (Luke 9:23; 1 Peter 4:1-2; Romans 8:29-36) If that is my attitude of heart (and of course God is well aware of my real intentions and desire, whatever my feelings may be), then I am precious indeed to the Lord and He will, without a doubt, strengthen me powerfully to live the same life and to walk as He walked.

Feelings

Recognize that your feelings are just that – feelings, not necessarily the truth. Even feeling like you don’t feel anything is a feeling, and therefore not to be relied on – it can’t stop you from doing. You can’t allow feelings to dictate your life. They are fickle, as opposed to faith, which stands firm as a rock!  Faith is action, despite how you may feel. God’s word is truth; cling to that. James tells us to “Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you.” James 4:8. If you are obedient to do that, despite how you may feel, then you will experience the truth of it.

Didn’t Jesus also, at least once in His life, feel that God had forsaken Him? (Matthew 27:46) Remember, too, that God has said that He will dwell in the darkness. (1 Kings 8:12) He is there with you when you go through dark times! Go against your feelings – or lack thereof – and take up the Bible with a prayer to have an open heart for the Word, and the spiritual nourishment there will strengthen you. FightAlmost all talk of battles and wars when concerning a Christian life refers to the inner battle that arises when a sinful thought tempts you. God’s Spirit and the flesh are at odds. When you have decided to only do God’s will and are being led by the Spirit, a conflict between the flesh and the Spirit arises: there is... More for your faith! Press in to Jesus! Love and serve Him for His own sake, not because of your feelings or what you might gain from it. Then your relationship with Him will be a healthy one.

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. … You will seek Me and find Me, when you search for me with all your heart. I will be found by you, says the Lord, and I will bring you back from your captivity.” Jeremiah 29:11,13-14. Fight as a good soldier of Jesus Christ, who has laid down His life for you personally! God, in His love and faithfulness, will undoubtedly restore the joy of faith and salvation to you!

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Explore how God’s Word challenges and empowers us to live 100% according to His will, so we no longer need to fall in sin, but can come to a life of victory.

I am crucified with Christ
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I Am Crucified With Christ

This booklet is based on Paul’s words in Galatians 2:20: “I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me …” Here Elias Aslaksen explains what this means and how the reader can have the same testimony as Paul in their own life.

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