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A pure marriage

Purity is a virtue that is becoming increasingly rare.

Infidelity and adultery cause pain, suspicion, lack of trust and misery, both for marriage partners, children and others involved. Is it possible to keep a pure marriage?

Purity is a virtue that is becoming increasingly rare. Even within Christianity, what the Bible says about purity is watered down and many people no longer regard many forms of immorality as sinSin is anything that goes against God’s will and His laws. To commit sin is to transgress or disobey these laws. The lust to sin dwells in human nature. In other words, it is contaminated and motivated by the sinful tendencies that dwell in all people as a result of the fall into sin and disobedience in the garden of Eden. This... More. When we read what Jesus Himself says about this subject, we find a standard that far surpasses just being pure in deed. Jesus brought an understanding completely contrary to the teaching of the religious leaders of the day, who “appeared beautiful outwardly” but were full of “dead men’s bones”. They were not interested in addressing the uncleanness within.

A pure thought life

Jesus said that one who even looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. (Matthew 5: 20, 27-28) This shows that it is the very thought life which must be kept pure from all sorts of lustsThe desires that we experience that go against God’s will. In other words, a desire for anything sinful. See James 1:14. Also called “sin in the flesh.” Although the expression “youthful lusts” is  often thought of in connection with sinful sexual desires, lusts include anything that go against what is good and right in God’s eyes. (2 Timothy 2:22.; Galatians... More that are within our fallen nature.

Sex in the context of marriage is something God has meant to be a blessing, but Jesus makes it clear that even entertaining lustful thoughts about someone other than your marriage partner is sin. You can’t help seeing or hearing things in the world around you, but the lusts that are awakened by your senses must be dealt with!

Joseph did just that. When Potiphar’s wife tried to seduce him on many occasions, he refused her. How did he do that? The answer lay in what he said to her – “How can I do this great wickedness and sin against God?” Genesis 39: 9. Rather than give in to temptation, he fled from her and kept himself pure..

It is Godly fear that will not allow you to be unfaithful, whether it is in your thoughts, where you look, or your actions. It will give you a decided mind, when you are reading a newspaper or surfing the Internet, so you don’t expose yourself to uncleanness. Even with a decided mind, you will be tempted because of the lusts in your human nature. Temptation itself is not sin, but it is a test of your faithfulness, and you must rule over sin. This means you must consciously take up a battleAlmost all talk of battles and wars when concerning a Christian life refers to the inner battle that arises when a sinful thought tempts you. God’s Spirit and the flesh are at odds. When you have decided to only do God’s will and are being led by the Spirit, a conflict between the flesh and the Spirit arises: there is... More against impure thoughts, and cry out to God for help in the temptation. God will answer with renewed strength to hold fast to your conviction, and in this way He will also work an inner transformationThis is the process of sanctification, in which we our sinful human nature is gradually exchanged for divine nature when we in obedience to God’s will deny and put to death the sinful lusts in our flesh. (Romans 12:2; 2 Corinthians 3:18; 2 Peter 1:3-4)... More in you.

Marriage is instituted by God

In today’s society, marriage is often regarded as old fashioned, but not so in God’s eyes. God Himself has instituted marriage, and regards it so highly that the Bible uses marriage to describe the pure, holy and perfect relationship between Christ and the churchMany people use the word to denote the entire body of Christians, and others to describe a certain denomination or group or even the physical building that Christians gather in. The Bible makes it clear that the true church of Christ is made up of all those who deny themselves, take up their cross, and follow Him. (Ephesians 2:19-22; Matthew... More.

Infidelity and adultery cause pain, suspicion, lack of trust and misery, both for marriage partners, children and others involved. Marriage should be the stronghold of trust, faithfulness and pure love, where God can bestow His blessing. One psalmist wrote “Rule in the midst of your enemiesMost often when a Christian refers to his or her “enemies” they are speaking about the sin in their flesh and the temptations and lusts that arise from there. These are enemies because they tempt us to act contrary to the will of God. These can also be spiritual powers such as the spirit of the times which oppose the... More,” (Psalm 110:2) and this starts in the thought life. To rule over sexual lusts so they do not corrupt your mind or ruin a relationship is perfectly possible and brings great reward from God!

 

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I Am Crucified With Christ

This booklet is based on Paul’s words in Galatians 2:20: “I have been crucified with ChristJesus was physically crucified on the cross at Calvary. Though blameless, He took upon Himself the punishment for sin, which was death, so He could pay our debts and forgive us our sin if we are willing to believe in Him and follow Him the Apostle Paul wrote: “I have been crucified with Christ…” (Galatians 2:20) This is a metaphorical... More; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me …” Here Elias Aslaksen explains what this means and how the reader can have the same testimony as Paul in their own life.

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